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"The Disillusioned Latter-day Saint"
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Dathon
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

There are good and bad characters in any group/subset of humanity. I agree that it appears Richard Bushman is not either dogmatic or literal in his belief. Br. Bushman seems to have a strong cultural allegiance to the LDS community. It's worked for him and he believes it can and does work for others.

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On the other hand, there are many good Mormons who would give you the shirt off their back. But I digress--Bushman is NOM, I really believe that. He wrote RSR under the guise of a believer but I really believe he is NOM--he's too smart to admit it though.

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was encouraged by what I heard from Bushman and the seminar participants until I got to the end with this quote:

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To counteract this lack of preparation, the seminar members have taken as our motto the scripture that begins: “As all have not faith, teach one another” (D&C 88:118). We are encouraged by the scriptural recognition that not all have faith, and by the appealing remedy, “teach one another.”...


My first reaction upon reading it was that people like us that question didn't have faith. Did anyone else read it that way? That's a little insulting, as if finding out the faults in the church history is somehow indicative of a lack of faith. Like JS said in the Lectures on Faith, faith has to have an object on which it rests. Well when you find out the objects that you had faith in were not historically accurate, the faith in them crumbles. So don't blame us for not having faith in something that factually has holes in it!

I too believe that the church has lied about its history and is continuing to cover it up. For all the good that it purports to do, along with their narcissistic focus on their image, just the fact that they are not forthcoming keeps me highly skeptical of their motives and makes me distrust them.

He is right that I do welcome the freedom of my somewhat agnostic condition. I don't worry about breaking the rules anymore b/c I now believe they were man-made.

Overall though, it is a step in the right direction, but it won't lead me back to drink the koolaid again!
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yogaman wrote:
I was encouraged by what I heard from Bushman and the seminar participants until I got to the end with this quote:

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To counteract this lack of preparation, the seminar members have taken as our motto the scripture that begins: “As all have not faith, teach one another” (D&C 88:118). We are encouraged by the scriptural recognition that not all have faith, and by the appealing remedy, “teach one another.”...


My first reaction upon reading it was that people like us that question didn't have faith. Did anyone else read it that way?


I wasn't really paying attention to that, but yes, I think that is a reasonable interpretation. While they may be toning it down a bit, and attempting to reach out to non believers, the agenda is still the same: find some way of bringing them "back into the fold." With enough faith, you can still be a believer. The undercurrent is still there - there is something wrong with you and you need to be fixed. If you could just have enough faith, then you could go back to being a believer again. Of course that works for any belief system. The goal is re-conversion, not finding truth.

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 5:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Back when John Dehlin did his interview with Richard on MormonStories, what Bushman had to say was awe-inspiring for me. He actually recovered Joseph Smith for me, and was probably more responsible than any one person for bringing me back into the fold, at least for a while. Between Richard and John, I was able to find meaning in Mormonism again.

It didn't last.
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Dathon
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 5:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a good friend who is a lapsed Catholic, now secular humanist, who says that it's silly and unproductive for Mormonism to stigmatize unorthodox/heretical members and apostates. He feels it would be much smarter and better for the leadership to adopt a far more inclusive rhetoric. I don't know that it will happen in my life time though.
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:44 pm    Post subject: Umm... Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:45 pm    Post subject: Mmm... Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:56 pm    Post subject: Don't hold back like that. Tell us how you really feel Reply with quote

"real truth" is an interesting and possibly redundant construct. We can use evidence to construct a plausible, intelligible and fruitful historic narrative but it's possible that, in some limited ways, Plato's allegory/analogy/metaphor of the cave might be useful.

For some of us the church's presentation of it's own history seems to lack candor and be so one-sided as to seem disingenuous. To a true believer, the stories are good enough. I suspect we might never know the details of many incidents though it seems reasonable that alternative documentary evidence, narratives, etc should not be ignored or dismissed out of hand.

I wonder how long deniability will remain plausible for some aspects of church history and policy. I think we are seeing some serious historical revision in response to increasing availability of information.

While I found Elder Oaks statement unfortunate, it's hardly unbelievable or even unique or unusual in either attitudes or behaviors of many groups, corporations, governments or religious organizations. Shocking, perhaps -- unbelievable, only to the most optimistic and naive, imho.

As an agnostic and a naturalist I agree with you about Occam's (or Ockham's) razor. Great for a really close epistemological shave.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 12:59 am    Post subject: Wondering Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 9:03 am    Post subject: Re: Wondering Reply with quote

I am extremely suspicious of the tendency to promote blind (or so-called faith) obedience on the general membership of the church by General, regional and local authorities/leadership of the church. I agree that there seems to be more of a corporate ethos or milieu in the church today than one of a loving faith community.

OTOH I give the benefit of the doubt to many true believers. I feel that most are earnest and honestly believe what they teach.

IMHO there are no real checks and balances, but nominal ones in the form of councils and counselors in leadership groups. I believe the expectation of believers is that God provides the checks and balances and would not let the prophet or other leaders misguide the membership. Personally I do not believe that.

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I don’t see a difference between government or corporate power and that of the church’s ‘government’ and ‘corporate’ power? What am I not getting here? Isn’t abuse of power, abuse of power in whatever milieu or circumstance wherein criticism (for the lack of a better word) is necessary for the well-being maintenance of the body politic? Pray, tell: What are the instruments for checks and balances in the LDS church?

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PostPosted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 4:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I do think the leadership ought to listen quite carefully to the things Bushman is saying here. I was raised with lots of the facts about J. Smith and our complicated history, and as a result I still have an abundance of faith in the good things in mormonism. I never experienced all the anger and betrayal after learning things weren't so clean and white as presented in sunday school and seminary.
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Lincoln
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 12:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I am this disillusioned member, so disillusioned in fact, that I don't think I can be repaired. But I don't feel broken either. I feel stuck in a loop of never ending family expectations. *sigh* Rolling Eyes
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 10:15 am    Post subject: Re: Wondering Reply with quote

Dathon wrote:
IMHO there are no real checks and balances, but nominal ones in the form of councils and counselors in leadership groups. I believe the expectation of believers is that God provides the checks and balances and would not let the prophet or other leaders misguide the membership. Personally I do not believe that.
Bobbime wrote:


I don’t see a difference between government or corporate power and that of the church’s ‘government’ and ‘corporate’ power?


One of the things that lead me out the Church was the similar behaviors I observed in corporate non-Mo leaders and bishops/SPs/GAs I observed in the Church. Exhibiting the same behaviors itself is not necessarily condemning, but exhibiting the same motivations (power) was disheartening. And for Church leaders to claim divine sanction caused no shortfall of disillusionment.

In most cases I don't believe Church leaders abuse authority. Some do, but most are decent guys. But they do like their power just as much as their corporate cousins. The JS quote "We teach them correct principles and they govern themselves" was thrown out a long time ago.

I have never observed a meaningful system of checks & balances in the Church. The only check on power is that provided by the next level up and there's a reluctance for that to occur except in egregious circumstances.

I have long stated that the Church learned nothing from the errors of MMM. The current hierarchy can blame it on "local leaders" all they want but as long as they fail to see and admit the culpability of BY they are just as prone to errors in judgement.
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PostPosted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

So would anyone forward this to their stake president? I am planning on sending to mine and possibly to our new bishop to be. I already sent it to our home teacher.
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