Thanks Mel for this; http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Touch-You ... 096291620X
is # 1 in my “Books I should buy” list now. Like others I need some time to read and absorb this new information.
I’m also doing some work with the SSW at the place we live now. Started with self esteem, anger management, assertiveness, be more loving to ourselves, forgiving (to others and ourselves), etc. I am so excited to have the opportunity to learn new ways to face life’s challenges and the issue with boundaries it has being so neat! I find that when I am able to be assertive and set boundaries to people (my children, my ex, my coworkers, angry customers, etc) I am less subject to feel victimized and or abused.
It helps with my children to know I deserve and expect respect and I’ll do the same to others (this also applies to the other people in my list).
Greenfrog, thanks for the examples on how to approach it in an assertive and respectful-non aggressive manner.
I have had a hard time being assertive and having healthy boundaries with a bishop once before. He said he was concerned about me, he was ready to acuse me of apostasy so he decided the only way to believe I wasn’t part of an “anti” group was to go into my email box. I felt violated by his request. But when the SP approved it; I figured it was my only way out. So we went online and I opened my email inbox, he saw who I talked to. I told him no to opening my emails. _That is private! I said. That was good enough, I got my TR.